But sometimes it is fun to pull things together, piecemeal, until you achieve some sort of harmony. I started with the yellow skirt, then went tearing through my tops and sweaters to find something that would take it in a different direction. And I had a helper/distraction, as you can see here.
I adore this skirt, which was probably once part of a suit but is smashing on its own, too. And I just pulled this top out of my closet from a bag of clothes I packed away when I was pregnant (ahem, more than three years ago) and was pleased to find that it fits (note: I am NOT my pre-pregnancy weight/shape, but this top is a stretchy baby-doll, so yeah), so I was excited to take it for a spin.
I hadn't realized how rarely I wear low-cut tops (speaking relatively here; I realize this is not particularly low-cut by most standards) until I wore this one, though. I felt super exposed and actually just cold with this much of my chest uncovered. And I kept clutching nervously at the neckline whenever I bent over. I don't have any sort of philosophical or moral commitment to dressing modestly, but I have found that, in practice, the clothes I feel most comfortable in tend to fit that (very broad) definition.
My feelings about revealing clothing on women are really complex. I was listening to this song the other day and, while I realize that the lyrics are probably intended to be empowering or standing up for women ("With those skin tight clothes, you're playin' yourself"), I also don't think anyone should assume anything about a woman's motivations, desires or self-respect by looking at the clothes she wears. And I am struggling, deeply, with how to communicate this muddled message to my daughter.
I don't want to tell her that wearing tight or revealing clothes is "trashy" or "slutty" or even the more vague but still somewhat judgmental "inappropriate." I do want to find a way to have an ongoing conversation about how we telegraph meaning through the clothes we wear, and that it is worth being aware of that meaning so that you can make informed decisions about it. And if she does decide — as she almost certainly will, at some point — to wear something that I think is hideous, or cringe-worthy, or inappropriate, I wonder if I will have the courage to keep my mouth shut.
Skirt: Vintage, thrifted
Shoes: Vintage, thrifted
Total cost to me: About $10