On Being Nice: Vintage leather dress + polka dot polo

Because of reasons, these photos were taken in the ladies' room at my office (as if that weren't painfully obvious).


I have super mixed feelings about my job (I work at a newspaper). On the one hand, there is a lot that is fulfilling about the work that I do, both in terms of the type of work (editing) and the aim of our business (informing our readers about things we believe are important).


But I have come to realize lately that, not only is there kind of a culture of negativity in my workplace, worse yet, I am one of the main culprits in perpetuating it.


It's perfectly normal to blow off steam, to vent or to share a grievance or two with a friend or colleague. But I see and hear myself all too often making it a point to talk about negative things — what someone else has done wrong, a decision someone else made that I don't agree with, or other frustrations — and I've realized how little of it is actually productive in any way.


I think complaining is a little bit like gossip — it's the junk food of conversation. We're drawn to it, we do it mindlessly, and once we start, we find it hard to stop. And like junk food, complaining rarely leaves us feeling better about ourselves or our situation.


When I was a little girl, my mother used to quote the line from "Bambi" where Bambi's mother says, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." Now, I could never give up snark altogether. But I am trying to rein in my mindless ... for lack of a better word, bitching. Because it's not doing me any good; it's not doing the people around me any good; and I can do better.


Polka dot top, leather dress, belt: All thrifted
Shoes: Old Navy
Necklace: Instagram sale
Total cost to me: About $20

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  1. Wow! Good for you! From your blog you strike me as very nice!

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    1. :) Thanks! I am nice here because this is what I love doing ... not always the case at my 9-to-5.

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  2. That outfit is killer! In like a good way. Not like that hunter that killed Bambi's mom.

    Sometimes being nice is really hard. I find that I am more negative with a certain coworker of mine because she is always negative, so it rubs off on me. My attitude is still my responsibility though! So I need to stop letting it get to me. I wish you the best of luck in doing a little attitude maintenance.

    You really shine in office bathroom outfit photos :D

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    1. Thanks Justina! I realized with horror that I AM that co-worker ... the one who is always negative. And that's not who I want to be.

      I had a friend take these photos - it is so much easier to smile when someone else is behind the camera! For some reason. Probably because we always have fun together.

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  3. I do the same thing at work! I am a complainer. It's hard to find the balance between complaining mindlessly and venting so as not to snap or yell at someone (I go from 0 to 60 in about 2 seconds and I've found the venting helps me calm down). The good news is that your outfit is awesome! Love the polka dots!
    -Nout
    http://sandpaperkissesblog.com

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